Last updated on November 26, 2019
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” ―
In Ms. Browns, Netflix special with an overall recurring theme repeated gingerly: choosing courage over comfort matters a great deal.
Stress. Anxiety. Failures. Depression and Leadership battles. Really tough conversations with fellow colleagues. Heartaches and heartbreaks. There are som many challenges that face every person personally and professionally. Yet what Ms. Brown’s research has also revealed are core practices that people can engage in to overcome these obstacles, and to live a more wholehearted life. The path, of course, is through vulnerability, and “having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcome”.
Searching for joy- So often the mental and emotional challenges like anxiety and stress disorders are focusing on what could possibly go wrong, rather than seeing what is already working well. Ms. Brown says that joy is the most vulnerable human emotion. The findings show were so afraid that if we let ourselves feel joy, that something will come and take that away from us and we’ll be hit with pain, trauma, and loss. As a consequence, we try to “dress rehearse” tragedy to feel better prepared.
I personally came to realize while watching this special; I found myself face to face in a mirror looking at myself. Finally, I had the answers to questions like the following Stress and Anxiety. Fear of Failing. Depression. Worthiness and Worthlessness. While watching the show on Netflix, I became aware of my feelings had actually paralyzed my own potential and growth myself.
I watch this special periodically, I stop and rewind the Theodore Roosevelt quote and listen to it over and over. Now in my mind, I hear “stop dragging your ass”, “stop the blame on others” repeatedly. I still hear in my head “You can’t” and sometimes “Ahh, you’ll do it next week”. I’ve always been a procrastinator. Always. When I was a kid, I’d wait until the last minute for everything, then “rush, rush, rush!”.
I can honestly say that Brené Brown’s Netflix special: The Call to Courage has changed me. My outlook on life, my goals (making more realistic ones and leave fantasy lotto for free time), and be spontaneous more. I started this website.
Do I have to make more improvements to say more? Yes, but there is always room for improvement. I now have the quote from President Roosevelt hanging on my wall. I read it and recite it in a mirror. Thank You, Brené Brown, for helping a lost person in the cheap seats and take a little more chances, enjoy the view because we are never guaranteed a tomorrow.